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Outrun


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When we feel threatened, our instinct is to flee and outrun danger or discomfort.


The instinct to flee also arises when we are faced with pain, emotional distress, grief and situations that overwhelm us. We try to outrun them.


I have tried to do it, so I can see it in others. We have all been in this situation many times.


We can slip into denial, numb our feelings, avoid the issue, physically move away, and bury ourselves in busyness, as there are all manner of avoidance routes available. Anything to make the pain go away.


The sad truth is, the pain is there, and we can't outrun it. It will find us, and at some point, we will come face-to-face with it.


We trust that life will show us where to turn for help, who we can show our vulnerability to and how to find support when we stop running.


Many people cross my path as I try to be of service to them in their time of grief and offer support as they face the inevitability of a funeral service.


The day of the service may or may not be a time when they feel able to turn and face their grief, as each of us is an individual and we all have our unique way of dealing with things. I am not there to make anyone face anything, but I am there to support and help where I can.


Creating the words for a celebration of life ceremony, I am sometimes asked to honour a loved one's sense of humour and not to make it sad. It's a delicate balance because the last thing anyone wants is a parody or to make anyone feel worse, yet there needs to be a soft energy, a reflection of the essence of the loved one we are honouring.


Despite every challenge we face, it is always loving energy that brings us back to ourselves and support comes in many ways.

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Guest
Jun 16

So beautifully said Jane. <3 My lovely UB xox



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Jane Sturgeon
Jane Sturgeon
Jun 16
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Thank you, our UB. You are lovely. Much love and hugs from us both. Xxx 🩷🦄🩷

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Guest
Jun 15
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Lovely idea of not wanting to force people to face issure but to be there when they need support. Thanks, Jane - John Howell

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Jane Sturgeon
Jane Sturgeon
Jun 15
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Hello John, yes. It's not kind to push people. I rear up if anyone tries it with me! Much love to you, Mrs H, Twiggy and Tempeste. Xxx 🩷

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Rick Braveheart
Rick Braveheart
Jun 14
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Traveling through life and death has it's joys and its sorrows and there's often a temptation to embrace one while ignoring the other. How beautiful that you can be a guide to help support others and perhaps find a balance in their time of loss. You make a difference in the world Jane.

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Jane Sturgeon
Jane Sturgeon
Jun 14
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Oh, Rick, I am truly humbled. Thank you. My love to you, you special soul. Xxx 🩷

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Guest
Jun 14

Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the rest of us, Jane! I especially like this reminder: "I am not there to make anyone face anything, but I am there to support and help where I can."

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Jane Sturgeon
Jane Sturgeon
Jun 14
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Thank you. Much love to you. Xxx 🩷

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Jun 14
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It is amazing how that 'loving energy' and support do find you, when you most need them ❤️

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Jane Sturgeon
Jane Sturgeon
Jun 14
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Yes, they are life's gifts and so welcome and special. Much love to you. Xxx 🩷

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