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No Blame


field of sunflowers with a backdrop of trees

'Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there.' Rumi ~


In our early days, Tim and I made a pact of never having blame enter our loving bubble. We would stand together and face whatever happened with a united front, creating a 'no blame' home.


We found the painting pictured above, and it hangs above our bed and makes us smile often.


This week has been an interesting one and another's choices could have cast a shadow over our crop of happy sunflowers and certainly introduced weeds into our field. One evening, sitting on the sofa and looking out across our raised rose bed, where the bushes are bursting into life and the bulbs are coming up, we made a decision. It settled a drama quickly and quietly and gave us peace to touch our inner calm. A light breeze passed over the sunflowers and no lasting harm was done.


Some people choose to live creating dramas as if life is all one big competition, and we find that kind of energy exhausting. We always have a choice on whether we dive into a drama, take offence, and carry upset forward into a new moment. We choose what we focus on and undoubtedly, the energy we create makes more of what we are putting our attention into.


We thrive when our sunflowers thrive. 🌻



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Peter Aldino
Peter Aldino
5月13日
5つ星のうち5と評価されています。

Easy to blame (judgement), harder to take responsibility (guilt shame), even harder to share responsibility (forgiveness, non-duality)

Hope you had a lovely Mother's Day ...

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Jane Sturgeon
Jane Sturgeon
5月13日
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Shared responsibility makes life sweeter 🩷 Much love to you both. Xxx 🩷

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5月12日
5つ星のうち5と評価されています。

Beautiful Jane. Life is grand if we can walk away from the drama. MY UB <3 xoxo

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Jane Sturgeon
Jane Sturgeon
5月12日
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Ain't that the truth, our UB. Much love flowing to you with hugs. Xxx 🩷 🦄 🩷

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ゲスト
5月10日

Love this - John Howell

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Jane Sturgeon
Jane Sturgeon
5月10日
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Thank you, John. Much love to you and your girls. Xx 🩷

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Peter Springer
Peter Springer
5月10日
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I don't know why some people go out of their way to seek drama. I try to do the opposite. Life is so much simpler that way.

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Jane Sturgeon
Jane Sturgeon
5月10日
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Hello Pete, yes, it is simpler, and I feel that those of us who prefer a kinder life, find the need for drama baffling! Much love to you and Debbie. xX 🩷

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ゲスト
5月10日

It is worth trying to avoid following the need to create or expand a drama. It is a conscious decision and an amazing achievement when we look back and understand that we "don't have to" get angry.

I still have problems leaving a comment since I need a password (which I don't have or forgot). So I do it as a guest but show up unknown, unfortunately. Love, Erika

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Jane Sturgeon
Jane Sturgeon
5月10日
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Ahh, lovely Erika. Thank you for your wise and thoughtful comment. You are on my subscriber list from the old website, but you can subscribe from the subscription option on the Home page, or at the bottom of the blog post, and then you won't have to sign in.


It is lovely to hear from you and thank you for your patience. Much love. Xx 🩷

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