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No Blame


field of sunflowers with a backdrop of trees

'Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there.' Rumi ~


In our early days, Tim and I made a pact of never having blame enter our loving bubble. We would stand together and face whatever happened with a united front, creating a 'no blame' home.


We found the painting pictured above, and it hangs above our bed and makes us smile often.


This week has been an interesting one and another's choices could have cast a shadow over our crop of happy sunflowers and certainly introduced weeds into our field. One evening, sitting on the sofa and looking out across our raised rose bed, where the bushes are bursting into life and the bulbs are coming up, we made a decision. It settled a drama quickly and quietly and gave us peace to touch our inner calm. A light breeze passed over the sunflowers and no lasting harm was done.


Some people choose to live creating dramas as if life is all one big competition, and we find that kind of energy exhausting. We always have a choice on whether we dive into a drama, take offence, and carry upset forward into a new moment. We choose what we focus on and undoubtedly, the energy we create makes more of what we are putting our attention into.


We thrive when our sunflowers thrive. 🌻



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Sue Dreamwalker
Sue Dreamwalker
05 jun
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Beautifully said Jane.... Often times its other peoples drama's which encroach into our own energy space trying to cause discord ... Seeing through them, and choosing to focus upon your own inner calm and pathway, brings balance... Like those beautiful Sunflower heads standing proud facing the LIGHT.. xx 💖 Much love dear Jane xx

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Jane Sturgeon
Jane Sturgeon
06 jun
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Dearest Sue, I love how the sunflowers turn their heads during the day to follow the sunlight. Wise nature. Our love to you both, always. xXx 🌻💕

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Peter Aldino
Peter Aldino
13 may
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Easy to blame (judgement), harder to take responsibility (guilt shame), even harder to share responsibility (forgiveness, non-duality)

Hope you had a lovely Mother's Day ...

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Jane Sturgeon
Jane Sturgeon
13 may
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Shared responsibility makes life sweeter 🩷 Much love to you both. Xxx 🩷

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Invitado
12 may
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Beautiful Jane. Life is grand if we can walk away from the drama. MY UB <3 xoxo

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Jane Sturgeon
Jane Sturgeon
12 may
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Ain't that the truth, our UB. Much love flowing to you with hugs. Xxx 🩷 🦄 🩷

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Invitado
10 may

Love this - John Howell

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Jane Sturgeon
Jane Sturgeon
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Thank you, John. Much love to you and your girls. Xx 🩷

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Peter Springer
Peter Springer
10 may
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I don't know why some people go out of their way to seek drama. I try to do the opposite. Life is so much simpler that way.

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Jane Sturgeon
Jane Sturgeon
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Hello Pete, yes, it is simpler, and I feel that those of us who prefer a kinder life, find the need for drama baffling! Much love to you and Debbie. xX 🩷

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